……….FRIDAYS WITH NMA………

N/B : Chidinma Mmaduka is our new columnist and she will be in charge of this space: ”Fridays with Nma”. She is a young, exciting writer. I hope we will all enjoy her articles. Jpin her every friday if you enjoyed this and please don’t forget to encourage us.  Cheers!

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

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Have you ever eaten an orange after which you take an apple and it feels like wow there’s no fruit like an apple but shortly after with the pineapple juice dripping through your fingers and you smacking your lips you testify that pineapple it is,none other tastes better. But u fail to realize that each fruit is different, how the heck do u compare an orange to pineapple?for crying out loud it will always be an orange! Am sure you are thinking who in his right senses does that? Right? Let me disappoint you that’s the mistake most of us make in our relationships. We feel Ade is not as tolerant as segun or Seun is more caring than Segun. We tend to compare our present partner to our ‘exes’ or ‘nexts’ if i may say while forgetting that each of them is a different individual and treated as such. Why not find out the strengths of your partner and  appreciate it instead of hanging to the flaws and comparing how poor her cooking is while your ex is excellent at it. Theres nothing as romantic as a couple recognizing each others weaknesses, understanding it and working on how to tolerate or improve on it instead of rubbing it into his /her face. If you continue at this pace of comparison, you will end up from one relationship to another without ffulfilment Rather than compare Aisha to Bola and Bola to Ngozi,why not compare them to a vision of what you want from a relationship partner. Focus on the bigger picture and you will have a better chance of meeting someone who is more fully like what you want in a partner
Have you ever found yourself in such scenarios?what was it like?Were you doing the comparison or the one being compared? Share your experience, let’s keep the ball rolling.

Article by

CHIDINMA MADUKA

Guest Columnist

6 Comments

  1. Good piece Nma for a Friday (esp stress-free ones)
    Anyway, l have not been in any serious relationship prompting to marriage but have related to few young ladies as friends with nothing or more implied 👐
    Sipping a bottle of beverage (Schweppes, most preferred brand) before the day ends have not ceased to be a routine. But meanwhile in the canteen you will see varieties of them and that throws me into a dilemma…..Coke no doubt is more refreshing than Schweppes…. Malt (barley) more matured than both…….Viju milk better sweetened than the previous….
    It’s a matter of choice, then making your choice your priority and finding reasons to love it (in good intention) beyond measures.

    TGIF👦

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